by Dr. Boyce Watkins
Amber Cole is a 14-year old girl who was recorded giving oral sex to her boyfriend. The video has gone viral on the Internet, with millions of people watching. Since that time, Cole has been the victim of ridicule and bullying.
As a father, I am concerned by both Cole’s actions, as well as the public reaction to them. I hate the idea of any 14-year old doing this kind of thing, and I especially hate the idea of people over the age of 14 participating in the quest to ruin this poor girl’s life.
We all make mistakes, but for some reason, we act as if this girl’s behavior isn’t being replicated in millions of bedrooms across the country. I find it incredibly ironic that we condemn the free expression of sexuality, even though sex is the reason that all of us exist in the first place. At the same time, I am also sad that there is no one around to tell Amber that 14 is simply too young to be doing any of this stuff.
There is a conversation we should all have with our children about how to manage the age of social media, especially when we experience love for the first time (which makes all of us do crazy things). We should also help our kids to understand that the power and privilege of sex is something that should be pursued responsibly, at the right time, with the right person, and not just whenever it feels good.
My thoughts are in the video below: