Sunday, February 15, 2009

Why Chris Brown was Dead Wrong in the Rihanna Situation



I've always liked the singer Chris Brown. In fact, I still like him very much. But I was, like everyone else, shocked to find out about Chris' alleged involvement in a boxing match with his girlfriend, singer Rihanna. I was surprised because this kind of behavior doesn't fit the good boy image that Chris' managers work so hard to maintain.

I read up on the story, thought about it carefully, tried to remember my own mistakes and experiences at the age of 19, and came to a conclusion: Chris Brown was DEAD WRONG.

Ladies, I know you love Chris. The man can sing his butt off, and he has all the makings of a swoon-aholic. I also think that, like Michael Vick and other brothers who have made bad choices, Chris deserves to be forgiven at some point. But the fact that there are so many (mostly women) willing to immediately forgive and forget or even thrust the blame for all this on Rihanna, is a bit scary and significantly misguided.

Let's be clear on this right now: A MAN HAS NO RIGHT WHATSOEVER TO PUT HIS HANDS ON YOU.

The only exception is if you try to kill him or come at him with a deadly weapon. No, Rihanna allegedly giving Chris herpes is not an excuse (Tom Joyner and others have made this statement, but I am not here to say if its true or not), since a) the herpes rate in America is about 48% in the Black community and people are passing it around all the time without realizing it (you may be getting herpes from your lover right now - you might wanna look into that), b) many people don't even know they are passing it since most people don't get tested, c) you are the one who chose to sleep with that person without having them tested, and d) assaulting someone physically is not the correct response to your disappointments. There are more intelligent ways to handle disputes with your lover. Again, I don't know if the herpes statements by Joyner and others are true, but even if it is/were true, that would NOT be an excuse for Chris to hit her.

Here's the deal to the brothers: domestic violence or assault on a woman is not only wrong, but it will land you in jail. If you are in a situation with a woman which leads you to feel the need to assault her physically, you should IMMEDIATELY REMOVE YOURSELF from the scenario. Don't talk to the woman anymore, and don't allow anyone into your space who might lead you to feel compelled to destroy everything you've worked for. Who you allow into your life is one of the most important decisions you will ever make and your entire world can go down in flames over one bad decision. Believe me, a crazy woman can destroy your life. You don't want to go through the drama. If Rihanna is the handful people say she is, then Chris needs to find a more mature partner.

To the ladies: some of you have to slow your roll on this whole "we can forgive everything if he sings well and has money" mindset. With all the evidence of R. Kelly wanting to get freaky with 12 year olds, I found myself astounded that women were willing to laugh off his behavior as simply "artist eccentricity". No, that is what they call CHILD MOLESTATION. While I don't consider Chris Brown to be nearly as deranged as R. Kelly, the facts remain the same: if a guy can sing, many women will forgive damn near anything. The same way many men are tempted by (as Bell, Biv Devoe said) "a big butt and a smile", many women are equally sucked into bad decisions by a big wallet and smooth words. As Martin Luther King might agree, there's something to be said about analyzing the content of someone's character. If a man beats you today, he will almost always do it again. If he treats you like crap before you're married, he'll keep doing it after you walk down the isle. If he cheats on you now, he's probably going to keep doing it. If he isn't taking care of his kids when he met you, he's probably not going to take care of yours. Some concepts are pretty simple, but the elixir of love makes us blind, deaf, dumb and crazy. The truth is that most people tell us exactly who they are if we are willing to listen and observe.

To Chris Brown: I like your personality a lot. You have tremendous talent and you appear to be a good person who made a horrible mistake. But don't ever make that mistake again. Not only have you jeopardized everything you and your business associates have worked for, you did something that was flat out wrong. You are a woman magnet like no other, but that doesn't give you a blank check on irresponsible behavior. Being a successful and powerful man does not imply that you have the right to put your hands on a woman, and if that were my daughter, we'd have a serious problem. If Rihanna is as crazy as she sounds, then send her packing.....put her umbrella (ella ella) in her suitcase and just tell her to go "live her life" with somebody else. You've got too much to lose, so don't lose it.

Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Professor at Syracuse University and author of "What if George Bush were a Black Man?" For more information, please visit http://www.boycewatkins.com/

98 comments:

Anonymous said...

now if a man came to us and told us they had herpes w vwould try to fight them to but just because chris brown is a celeb everybody is making a big deal about it.Yes,if my man came tome and said he had herpes probably would have done the same thing.

La'Trina Jones said...

any nigga be hittin me get merked real qwick!!!

Anonymous said...

I feel that Rihanna was very wrong for giving her lover Chris Brown STD .People also need understand that is herpes Chris brown will have to live with that for the rest of his life. Rihanna should be a shame of her self.And yes i feel chris brown should have handle this matter in another way but u have to really think about how chris was feeling at that time. Now Chris have to live his life everyday Knowing he have herpes.I feel that Rihanna should be charge knowing the fact she had herpes. a was willing to give her nasty herper to a yong gentel man chris brown.I work as a nurse and my heart goes out to Mr Brown.All Chris Brown can do is give it to god and let god work it out for him.

Anonymous said...

I feel no man have rights to hit a woman . But Rihanna is very wrong and she should be charge too.Knowing the fact she been had that mess.That is herpesso that mean Chris Brown will have that mess for the rest of his life, who to say what else Rihanna might be hiding i think Chris need to check make sure he dos'nt have anything else .I feel there should be a law for people that walk around here in this world and knowing that they have herpes our what ever the case my be. if they can have the ball to give you there nasty STD they should be put away for the rest of there life.Because all they are going to do is go somewhere else and give it to somebody else.There is alot of sick people in this world.All you can do is just give it to god he can do all things.

Anonymous said...

1. You'll don't know if that's the reason why they had the altercation.

2. Rhianna had an outbreak some weeks ago and during that time Chris was all over her. Go look for the pics. So, I don't believe that there is any way that he didn't know that she had herpes.

3. Even if he eventually found out she had herpes and transmitted it to him, who is to say that she always knew she had it. Herpes is a disease that if you don't have an outbreak and haven't gotten tested you wouldn't know you have it. There are lots of people walking around with herpes passing it to others and don't even know. You can use a condom and still possibly pass it to your lover.

Know the facts about the disease before you start making comments.

4. Who is to say Chris isn't the one to give her herpes. Everyone doesn't have the outbreaks so their is no way to know who gave it to whom.

That being said he still had no right hitting her like she is his damn child.

He better get it together quick before Jay or Tay Tay roll up on his behind and wear him out.

Strong Black Woman said...

Dayum yall some week-assed niggas in here! What "credible" source do you have stating that Rhianna gave Chris herpes. SHAME ON YOU DR. BOYCE! Glad to see sum of us thinks its okay hittin a woman.

Anonymous said...

Strong black woman, notice that he said "allegedly" gave him herpes. He didn't say he knew it. He is not saying that he knows for sure. Plus, the story is being reported in all kinds of news outlets, so I believe it.

Anonymous said...

so you the type of nigga who listen to gossip huh? punk-ass trick!

Anonymous said...

The herpes thing was on The Tom Joyner Morning Show....punk ass trick.

Crabb Mendoza said...

who da fuc is tom joynner??? just another whiny azz neegro! cause that slob say so make it tru??? what "proof" do he got??

Anonymous said...

Leave it to Boyce to get some stupid shit going. Im telling you the brother works for Willie Lynch!

Anonymous said...

This article is right on point Dr. Boyce. It's sad that there are black men on this listserv who think that women should be hit. You guys are pretty fucked up.

Thank you for speaking up for black women everywhere, well the ones that are not crazy.

Willie Horton said...

"Thank you for speaking up for black women everywhere, well the ones that are not crazy."

ROTFLMBAO!!!

Anonymous said...

Wise words professor. Thank you Dr. Boyce

Anonymous said...

Totally agree with you!
OMG! Even celebrity can get STDs.
No wonder why more and more people join the STD dating site STDslove.com

paris bars said...

Chris Brown is so cute !

Anonymous said...

I just wanna say who cares if you think it's scary people are on Chris Browns side. That's what fans do lol. I'm almost thirty and have never bought either of their cd's. We already have Beyonce and Nelly Furtado any thing in between is not needed. Rihanna will have tO stand up for herself before she can stand up for other women!! I hope she takes everyones advice and leaves him for good...for HIS SAKE!!!p.s Rihanna is loved...but not All around the world...sorry.

Anonymous said...

yeah it was wrong for chris brown to hit rihanna but if its true that rihanna gave chris herpes, thats wrong. no man should put his hands on a woman period. i've been in a abusive relationship that i got out of after 11 monthes. I like chris brown and rihanna but they need to work things out and whatever started the argument needs to stop and chris should of walked away or something then hitting rihanna. chris brown is cute and doesnt deserve to have a STD from anyone he's too young for that.I say that chris brown needs help with his anger so things can work out between him and rihanna. i think that chris and rihanna is a great couple but not if chris continues to beat on rihanna for whatever it is. i also think that men who beat on women are pussys and do it cuz they are insecure with themselves and cant control nobody else but women. I like you chris brown but you need to quit your abuse on rihanna and try to work things out with rihanna then hitting on her and taking your anger out on her, try to talk things over about your feelings with rihanna it might work out between you two. i hope things work out between you and rihanna.

Jay said...

Dr. King Deserves Better in Charlotte, NC!

http://drkingdeservesbetter.blogspot.com/2007/02/dr-king-deserves-better.html

What about Morris Brown??? said...

Fuk Rihanna and Chris Brown. Does anyone even care about Morris Brown anymore?

What about Morris Brown??? said...

Fuk Rihanna and Chris Brown. Does anyone even care about Morris Brown anymore?

What about Morris Brown??? said...

Fuk Rihanna and Chris Brown. Does anyone even care about Morris Brown anymore?

Leah said...

hey chris brown i love u and everything but u should never put ur hands on a women ever but rihanna should of told u she had herpes when u 2 first started dating.So I'm tellin u just let God work it out

Anonymous said...

Whose this dumb nigga that keeps asking about Morris Brown? That's one goddamn school and I can tell you went to that school cause yo ass can't spell worth a fuck.

Good article Dr. Boyce.

Who Cares about Morris Brown? said...

I swear, that dude from Morris Brown comes to the blog all the time. I am always seeing his shit. Doesn't he know that there are other HBCUs out there too? You think the world is supposed to drop everything to save one school with a 300 thousand dollar light bill? Maybe that school needs to get shutdown.

What about Morris Brown??? said...

Glad to see the support an HBCU gets on tha Boyce Blog. Yall hatin house negrows can eat a dick.

Anonymous said...

I love HBCUs. I just don't care about Morris Brown that much. The school wasn't that good anyway. I would rather give my money to a school that produces good enough graduates that they can give money. It's up to the alums to support a school and Morris Brown's alums obviously don't care.

Whitey McWhite said...

I think HBCUs are racist so I don't support them on principle.

Anonymous said...

Boy the trolls are out for this thread!

Anonymous said...

OMGGG WTF PPL THIS IS A CHRIS BROWN ND RIHANNA THING NOT A SCHOOL DAT NEEDS TO BE SHUT DOWN .. STUPID ASSES

Anonymous said...

no a man shouldn't hit a women but if she gives him something like that yes he should have beat the hell out of that hoe cause it could have been worst then that thank god its not rihanna is wrong for wat she did i hope our other black men learn from that befor u other men sleep with her i hope they think about protecting there self

What about Morris Brown??? said...

"OMGGG WTF PPL THIS IS A CHRIS BROWN ND RIHANNA THING NOT A SCHOOL DAT NEEDS TO BE SHUT DOWN .. STUPID ASSES"

See this is typical house negro/slave mentality way of thinking. We get to worrying about two modern day minstrel show performers and whether or not one gave the other the herpes instead of worrying about the state of black education in America. I'm not surprised though. The blog author talks black but works at a PWI.

slim & tender said...

I think yoll arugen is stupid let the truth be told who knows what the Truth is. It a come out soon, who are we to judge.

slim & tender said...

I do strongly agree you should never put your hands on a woman and vise versa also.

Anonymous said...

OKAY 1ST OF NO ONE KNOWS FOR SURE IF HERPES IS INVOLVED IN THIS CASE. IM SURE BOTH CELEBRATES WOULD APPRICATE IF THE WERE NOT IN THE SPOT LIGHT ABOUT THERE BUSSINESS BUT, HOWEVER BY THEM LIVING THE LIVES THEY LIVE THEY ALREADY KNOW THAT THERE BUSSINESS IS EVERYONES BUSSINESS IN THERE CASE. SO OFCOUSE CHRIS BROWN SHOULD NOT HAVE PUT IS HANDS ON A FEMALE NO MALE SHOULD BUT, FACE IT IT HAPPENS IM SURE HE FEELS BAD FOR WHAT HE HAS DONE BUT IF THE BOY NEXT DOOR DO THE SAME THING WILL EVERYONES REACTION BE THE SAME I WOULD HOPE SO YES BUT DO LET THEM LIVE THERE LIVES EVERYONE MAKE MISTAKES WE ARE NOT THE ONES TO JUDGE HIM OR HER IM SURE THEY WOULD AGREE WITH ME TO LET THEM HANDEL THERE BUSSINESS ON THERE ON NOTHING I SAY OR YOU SAY WILL HAVE AND IMPACT ON THERE LIVES SO JUST LET THEM LIVE THEM. AND THIS SHOULD BE A LESSON LEARNED TO EVERYONE EVERTHING THAT LOOKS GOOD AINT ALWAYS GOOD AND SOMETHIMES THINGS R NOT WHAT THEY SEEM SO WE SHOULD LIVE OR LIVES AS IF EVERONE IS INFECTED WITH SOME KIND OF STD CAUSE YOU WILL NEVER KNOW. AND I ONLY SAID THAT IF STDS WAS INVOLVED BUT EVEN IF ITS NOT ITS POSSIBLE FOR ANYONE TO HAVE AND STD THAT IS NOT HAVING SAFE SEX. SO DONT TAKE SOMETHING AND RUN WITH IT LET IT BE A LESSON LEARNED THANKS

Anonymous said...

Chris needs to stop tripping and thinking that he's the shit. This stuff is bullcrap and I think that Chris Brown need to go to prison so that they can beat his little ass too.

Anonymous said...

If Chris Brown was in the chain gang he would be someones byatch! He aint got no hook game.

Anonymous said...

This story is just sad all the way around.

Anonymous said...

Rihanna does not have herpes, that rumor came out of no where...and its just that, a rumor! I would like to know how that rumor came to be, and who ever started it should be asked to back it up with facts. You can't just go around accusing someone with having an STD, in my opinion, thats grounds to sue.

My heart goes out to the both of them, CB came from an abusive home, the kid needs counseling or else he is likely to repeat...and thats another thing, friends of Rihanna have said in interviews that they have seen bruises on her before, which is typically the case for an abusive relationship. Abuse starts off slow, and then escalates into the type of scenario that was reported on the other night. Every relationship has its ups and downs, however, its not normal for your man to beat on you b/c you said something that he did not like. Rihanna may also need counseling to figure out why she allowed herself to get caught up in an abusive situation and stay to endure it.
Regardless, I wish them the best, they are two beautiful, talented Black people.

Anonymous said...

I belive that whoever hits first is the one in the wrong. My mother told be theres nothing to being a man to let a woman beat you, right before she told me how to incopasitate a man in less than 10 seconds. If she learned something she did like leave. If she went first she should face charges if he hit her for nagging he sohuld be where he is at. I have been abused by a woman and I tried to tell her she could not win a fight with me over and over. women pull that card too much because were told not to hit them but they can fight and are vicious. All people have the right to defend themselves and if you enter a fight you can't win its your fault what happens next.

Anonymous said...

i think she desvered to get her ass beat if she really gave chris brown herpes. tht shit is wrong. nd c.b doesnt need to go to jail but he needs counseling.nd rihanna needs a new man cuz they juz dont go 2gether. chris brown is to sexy for jail. nd rihanna is to pretty to be gettin her ass beat. but hopefully everythin turns out good in tha end..

Anonymous said...

i think she desvered to get her ass beat if she really gave chris brown herpes. tht shit is wrong. nd c.b doesnt need to go to jail but he needs counseling.nd rihanna needs a new man cuz they juz dont go 2gether. chris brown is to sexy for jail. nd rihanna is to pretty to be gettin her ass beat. but hopefully everythin turns out good in tha end..

Anonymous said...

i think she desvered to get her ass beat if she really gave chris brown herpes. tht shit is wrong. nd c.b doesnt need to go to jail but he needs counseling.nd rihanna needs a new man cuz they juz dont go 2gether. chris brown is to sexy for jail. nd rihanna is to pretty to be gettin her ass beat. but hopefully everythin turns out good in tha end..

tayshawn said...

rihanna should kick chris browns ass for hittin her.if ii was her i would put a cap in his ass.rihanna is so fckin sexy she should get at meh cuz ima real nigga. any guy tht puts his hands on a chick is a bitch ya digg?

The Man said...

Listen to all of you foolish nigros. Got a black president but you all still can't get away from TNB, Typical Ni@@er Behavior.

What about Morris Brown??? said...

We talk and we fight and we'll never quit,
Get outta my face talking that shit.
You wanna joke you better find a clown,
We aint the one we MORRIS BROWN!!!

Anonymous said...

Wow, that poetry is whack. No wonder the students at Morris Brown are so damn uneducated.

Anonymous said...

yall allll stupppiiidddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddddd!! nobody really knows what went down between them!! gettt someee businessssssssssssssssssssss!! haha/

Anonymous said...

You guys are very ignorant for giving a pass to Brown to hit his woman. Whether or not Rihanna gave him an std (which may not even be the reason for the altercation) that is no excuse to beat a woman to a bloody pulse. Obviously Brown has laid his hands on before because this type of blowout does not come from nowhere. Whether it be little things like grabbing her or whatever, he obviously needs help. For the ladies that are Brown's side, that is disgusting. Get your minds out of the gutter and imagine if this was your sister or mother. People like you allow domestic abuse to be overlooked and allowed.

Samantha said...

ive been hit by a guy before.. and yeah its scary and yea u love him but think everything might change he said he loved me.. i believed him.. i gave him everything and i got traeted like sh*t all u can do is keep strong and move on.. if a guy put his hands on you he doesnt love you.. he shouldnt of handled it that way.. eveytone makes mistakes and we got 2 pay for them... you got 2 tand up 4 yourself do what u do.. only u have the power to change here.. if u want to talk 2 me more hit me up on myspace,... Samantha Tiffany

Anonymous said...

In a time when Afrikans can exploit their sworn, proven and clearly evident foe; amerikkka,
Black folk seem compelled to a welded tether to 'celebrated' invidivduals(many the proven and acomplished degenerates....i.e. hiphop) amerikkka presents.

When the focus should be on self reliance(yes ALL Black folk in amerikkka are 99.9% dependent on other races for survival), Black folk find solace and knighthood in the ongoings of afropeans(chris brown and most if not ALL Black 'celebrities", who CLEARLY care nothing of them.

A little inside info for ya, global finance as well as other races who have begun to bronze this new ethnic econo-protectionism, are set to run the next century....you've got at the most 9 months to get your act together, otherwise look forward to a PERMENANT, yes indelible writeoff....

no worries the chains should fit nicely....

Hotep

ain't much time left Afrikans

Jace said...

Dear Dr. Watkins: I thank you for your thoughtful and nonjudgemental commentary following the recent unpleasant events surrounding Chris Brown and Rihanna. I recently performed before some high school students at a high school in Georgia as part of their Black History Month presentations. I spoke with several young women about this and asked them to share their opinions/feelings about the news. I, too, was surprised at how many of them jumped to Mr. Brown's defense fo the very reasons you stated: he's handsome, talented and making money. They seemed to think that because of his status and their crushes on him that somehow Rihanna deserved to be hit. I was appalled by some of the comments, and willingly gave them, what I hope is sage advice, that no man should hit a woman. I also stated that the same goes for an abusive woman. Solving problems with fists, guns, etc., have always led to the destruction of lives, careers and families. I am always grieved to hear about young people Black people who are fortunate enough to go from dreaming a dream to living their dream. We often hear the worst about them via sound bites, gossip shows and the like, witch tend to sensationalize such events. I am hopeful that Chris Brown and Rihanna give serious thought to moving forward in a positive way, that they both seek the help and instruction they need and emerge for this situation better, wiser people.

Anonymous said...

i think that everyone should mind their buisness and stop jumping to conclusions because no one was there but chris and rihanna, and if he did hit her he was very wrong no matter what she could've said,seen or done to him does not give him the right to hurt her knowing he is much more powerful and will win.that was very silly,but we must also understand that these two people are still human and cannot treat them like species from another planet,like these those things don't occur everyday.chris was wrong and he has apologized.if jesus can give his life just to forgive us for our sins than we can forgive him.

Anonymous said...

i think that everyone should mind their buisness and stop jumping to conclusions because no one was there but chris and rihanna, and if he did hit her he was very wrong no matter what she could've said,seen or done to him does not give him the right to hurt her knowing he is much more powerful and will win.that was very silly,but we must also understand that these two people are still human and cannot treat them like species from another planet,like these those things don't occur everyday.chris was wrong and he has apologized.if jesus can give his life just to forgive us for our sins than we can forgive him.

drdonna2 said...

Under no circumstances should any woman allow a man to physically abuse her. The first and only time I experienced such madness was with my first husband shortly after we were married. I was in shock since this never occurred prior to our marriage. in it never occurred in any relationship i had been in before him including my father who was a perfect gentleman. My advice is to any woman who finds herself in such a horrific situation "RUN!" Get yourself as far away and as fast as you can from that person and "DO NOT GO BACK". If this is something that you are "not used to", then don't let yourself get use to it. Sure you can "forgive and forget", but the smart thing is to keep it moving. You must never let anyone challenge your dignity and self respect or
question your values. You're better than that. "RUN!"... then take a deep breath and exhale. A good man will recognize you when he sees you! Keep the Faith!

drdonna2 said...

Under no circumstances should any woman allow a man to physically abuse her. The first and only time I experienced such madness was with my first husband shortly after we were married. I was in shock since this never occurred prior to our marriage. in it never occurred in any relationship i had been in before him including my father who was a perfect gentleman. My advice is to any woman who finds herself in such a horrific situation "RUN!" Get yourself as far away and as fast as you can from that person and "DO NOT GO BACK". If this is something that you are "not used to", then don't let yourself get use to it. Sure you can "forgive and forget", but the smart thing is to keep it moving. You must never let anyone challenge your dignity and self respect or
question your values. You're better than that. "RUN!"... then take a deep breath and exhale. A good man will recognize you when he sees you! Keep the Faith!

Anonymous said...

I am a woman who just found out roughly 4 months ago I have herpes, and I have also been messing around with my kids dad for the past three years. And I do think Chris is wrong but at the same time understand. It’s hurtful to find out you have herpes or any STD, from my point of view it makes you feel worthless like you have to explain this or your problem before you go into a relationship with another person. And they are either going to love you for you and ride with it or walk and the thought of someone walking when you have feelings is hard. You can get this from kissing me I have kids and that thought alone kills me it's like you get this STD and it come alonge with a whole lot of I cant.......

Anonymous said...

No man should ever be hitting on a woman, no matter what. I hit a woman one time and ended up in jail. I lost my job, got kicked out of school and had to spend thousands of dollars in court costs. So, even if you don't give a fuck about the bitch, you don't need to be doing shit that's gonna end you up in jail.

Anonymous said...

well ill leave it at this...if u believe it then u believe it..If not then hey ket people think wat they want..it aitn none of yall concern wat the heck people wanna think or say...they could say u gay but aint nobody gonna kno the truth but yall..shit grow up

ALESIA said...

You are so wrong for the umbrella (ella ella) comment, classic!!!

But, thank you for speaking out in an educated and calm way on this issue. So many have gotten all upset about what we really dont know what is going on. Men should not hit women ever, and women should not hit men.

I pray that these young people will see the error of their ways and learn from this.

Anonymous said...

i think rihanna diserved to get hit because she is a slut and she gave him herpes. She is a HOE. yeah i said it, i think she is a dirty f***** b****.

Anonymous said...

i think rihanna diserved to get hit because she is a slut and she gave him herpes. She is a HOE. yeah i said it, i think she is a dirty f***** b****.

isaiah liciaga said...

i think rihanna did not deserve to get hit because no man has the right to PUT HIS HANDS on a woman unless the woman is trying to hurt or kill the man.

Anonymous said...

ok i think that rhinna deserved to get beat down because obviously, she had done something to make chris punch the heck out of her. i know a guy should not put his hands on a girl, but chris did that for a great cause. knock her butt out chris. i also think that jay z needs to shut his gorrila mouth.

Anonymous said...

ok i think that rhinna deserved to get beat down because obviously, she had done something to make chris punch the heck out of her. i know a guy should not put his hands on a girl, but chris did that for a great cause. knock her butt out chris. i also think that jay z needs to shut his gorrila mouth.

Anonymous said...

I am a 60yr old woman, who disagree with the opinions whether Chris should be held accountable for his action against Rhiana. Yes she is a young lady true enough, but if you put yourself in the certain postion with men some time you ask for what you get and there is always two side a situation. And passing Judgement on whether he was right or wrong is not for us to do.

Anonymous said...

I have been a fan of both Chris Brown and Rihanna since they came on the pop scene. I agree with you 100% Dr. Boyce, Chris Brown was dead wrong for his hands on a woman, I don't care how made she made him!!! Men should never, EVER put their hands on a woman!!! I only hope and pray that my girl Rihanna has the sense to LEAVE HIM ALONE!!!! My prayers go out to her!!! Just cause Chris has a fat bank account and just happens to be the hottest star on the pop scene doesn't give him the right to do what he did. Chris, please get some help, and Rihanna, one more time, LEAVE HIM ALONE!!!

Anonymous said...

...wonder what Barack and Michelle would say about this? I dare any of you clowns who said that Rihanna "deserved" to get hit would say if Barack ever hit Michelle! Cowards! No excuses!

dirtygurl said...

I'm constantly amazed at the stupidity that runs rampant in the world. herpes comes in two varieties...simplex one and two. simplex one is the most common and contributes to cold sores. rihanna is not the only person who suffers from cold sores.

simplex two is the one that is transmitted through unprotected sex. read a damn book, or better yet, go back to high school.

Mrs. Payne said...

The fact that all you out here that are judging these two need to look at yourselves! People make mistakes and we as black people need to support one another rather Chris needs anger management, rather R.Kelly needs a therapist, or Michael Jackson just plainly needs Jesus Who are we to judge some of you are hitting your wives, some women are giving their men herpes, and some of you men and women are molesting little kids so before you cast stones look at your self REPENT TURN FROM YOUR WICKED WAYS AND GOD WILL FORGIVE YOU! STAY BLESSED AND IF YOU DON"T KNOW JESUS MAKE HIM YOUR SAVIOR TODAY.

Anonymous said...

I support Chris Brown 100%. The police did not charge him with assault or domestic abuse. So, the police feel something else went on. From what they are saying now is that Rihanna hit Chris Brown FIRST. Men are being abuse all the time by women. What about the men? Today, there are a lot of women hitting men. We just don't hear about all the time. But we are quick to judge the man and defend the woman. "I think if you are big enough to give hit, you big enough to take a hit".

SHATIRRA MOORE said...

I UNDERSTAND WHERE CHRIS S CUMEN 4RM SHE KNEW SHE HAD A DAMN STD N GAVE IT TO HIM IF DAT WAS ME I WOULD HAVE BET HA ASS TO BUT KNOW DAT HE DID HE MIGHT GO TO JAIL IF SHE TRULY LOVE HIM SHE WOULD HAVE NOT GAVE HIM DAT STD CHRIS BROWN I LOVE U SHATIRRA MOORE

Anonymous said...

Dr. Boyce,
Violence is wrong, wrong, wrong on anyone's part. I believe what Chris (and Rihanna to a certain degree) are wrong no matter which way you look at it for getting into a physical altercation with a loved one. Their love should not have brought those sides out of each other. And if it did, it shows they may need to fall back a little, grow and mature, and learn to love anew.

However, I just have real issues with the media's way of painting him as this ferocious monster when he's never proven himself to be in the past. It's just too easy to paint a black man as angry, and these folks have taken the brush and run amuck with it.

I found an open letter written to Chris and Rihanna from their fans that I think you and your readers should check out. http://wesupportchrisandrobyn.blogspot.com

It just gave a whole new perspective away from the soap opera the media "professionals" seem intent on creating. I hope this incident sheds light on the fact that we can't trust the media and need to form our opinions based on evidence and facts, instead of fiction.

KP said...

I totaly agree with the commentary. I have been there and the best thing I ever did was leave the situation. I'ts just not worth loosing everything. I have a friend who is doing nine years because of the same type of situation. Your better off leaving. Run if you have too!!

Anonymous said...

i'm sorry...but...WHAT?

SPEAK ENGLISH !

Anonymous said...

My first observation of the subject would lead me to refer to their youth. Anyone so young really has no business becomming so serious in a relationship.

Now having said that, if a chick out there was handing out STD`s if she gets her ass whipped i think it`s fair game.

Anonymous said...

Herpes or not, it's not okay for anyone to be hitting on anyone else. This whole thing is so sad & is a mess.

Anonymous said...

I have to say that I am praying for both Chris and Rhianna. I am not saying that Chris was justified in allegedly hitting her but there are three sides to every story, his, hers and the truth. I hope the truth comes out and have to say they are both too young to be in such a heavy relationship or as Chris said "there is no relationship we are just friends". Rhianna has to stop being jealous and accusing. The word is TRUST if you don't have that ther is no basis for anything. I hope they can move past this and move on with their careers, they are two very talented people.

Anonymous said...

i think that everyone should mind their buisness and stop jumping to conclusions because no one was there but chris and rihanna, and if he did hit her he was very wrong no matter what she could've said,seen or done to him does not give him the right to hurt her knowing he is much more powerful and will win.

Anonymous said...

I dont blame chris for hitting her, if that trick gave me herpes i would slap her to!

ceairaluvsu94 said...

I think that she should have not gotten mad over txt message, and just let it go,an if she would have let it at that he whould have never hit her. But he did not need to beat her that bad.

Dreamfield said...

Am a fan of you guys and am an artist back here in nigeria so i know what is like to get it.Chris rihanna respect you and is cute.You should go and apologies no matter what.You are the man but always know that is wrong to beat a woman esp. In public.Women needs to be talk to,so go and do it.

Dreamfield said...

Am a fan of you guys and am an artist back here in nigeria so i know what is like to get it.Chris rihanna respect you and is cute.You should go and apologies no matter what.You are the man but always know that is wrong to beat a woman esp. In public.Women needs to be talk to,so go and do it.

Anonymous said...

I THINK WAT CHRIS DID WAS GOOD CAUZE #1 IF SOMEONE GAVE ME HERPIES I WILL SLAP N PUNCH DEM TOO=]

Anonymous said...

i believe that if this is true you still don,t have the right to put your hand on a woman,even though some will prevote a problem,but like the man said if that was my daughter we would have a problem.the women loved him,but like said once you do it regards to what it is if male or female you will do it again.so before the problem gets there get away from it.

Whitey McWhite said...

Funny how this thread on basically a trivial subject is getting more replies then the one on the NY Post comparing President Obama to a monkey. And you people wonder why we don't take you serious. Nigros are such a child-like race.

Anonymous said...

c'mon people dont you read the news the charges may be dropped against C.B. because of a lack of evidence Rihanna alleged Chris Beat Her Up She not even cooperating with police all she is saying is he beat me up. lord knows what really happened the picture is the only evidence and im starting to think thats digitally enhanced we cant judge if we dont really know what happened who are we to judge anyway nobody is perfect Chris Brown And Rihanna keep ya heads up there is a silver lining in every crowd

Anonymous said...

Man I agree with you only to a certain extent.From what you said there's no possibility for anyone to change and not revert back to making the same mistakes.I'm sorry but I am a man, and I think he should be forgiven now.It's not like he ran from the law or even denied doing it.Like all the other "brothers" you talk about, they all denied it.I definitely don't agree with the fact that a man should never put his hands on a woman.I'm sure you wouldn't be saying that if you got 300 pound Big Bertha beating you down. It's statements like that that allow women to think they can just beat on a man whenever they feel like it.True enough Chris may not have even threw the first punch. He could have been getting beat on, and out of frustration hit her a few times. Then out of guilt turn himself in because "men aint supposed to hit women." I'm sorry but your thesis is totally ridiculous. It's hard to say someone is wrong when you haven't experienced both sides of the story. I have been abused by a woman, and when I turned her in she got counseling.Is that fair.Because we all know had it been me beating her it would have been a totally different situation, and I'm black. I think you really need to define the real difference between right and wrong, and then re-evaluate the situation. Hell I haven't even been to college and even I can think deeper on a subject like this.
P.S Men shouldn't be allowed to hit women, and women shouldn'tbe allowed to hit men. It works both ways, so grow up folks.

Anonymous said...

First off let me start off by sayiing the herpes thing is fakeVERY VERY FAKE(they are always trying to make him have some type of diease.] anywayz i believe they are both in the wronqe. it was extremely wronqe for what chris brown had done but riahanna isn't a sweet innocent bystander,even she said that she is an abusive person.&& what happends when you mix 2 hot heads together...Theyy fight. Ohh nd did any1 hear about her being pregneat with chris's baby?

Anonymous said...

what i think about this article, i am a chris brown fan and i didnt have the mindstate of hes rich, he can sing, all that went out my mind! i was just wondering what could she have done to make him so anger. but the most i have to say its two sides to a story and no one is attacking rihanna with their brutally words cause she talking up! but since chris brown is not saying anything and is a man and all people heard out the story was "chris brown beat rihanna" "chris brown attempt to kill rihanna" chris brown this and that!!!!!!! everyone wants to jump on him but mostly its not his his fault. its both of their fault just like people saying he could have walked away she could have walked away! just like you and others are saying hes dead wrong for putting his hands on her she is dead wrong for putting her hands on a man"I AM A FEMALE" and im not crazy enough to put my hands on a man and to hit him to a point were he gets fed up and will start to defend his self and hit back cause im hitting him!!! just like they make a big deal out of men hitting women in this world. it is mannish women hitting mens also but theirs nothing wrong with that. o rihanna dont get spoken on to brutally about what she did! hes bigger then her, hes stronge then her, she was just trying to act all bad! maybe she should have thought twice about her actions and all this would have never happend! from my heart i dont have sympthay for her maybe a little bit, but for someone to sit up here and say she is appalled by his apology but still says she love him and dont want to leave him and shes texting him to see if hes alright but your still talking to the cops helping them make the case even bigger then what they had. and its mostly he say she say cause no one elsa was around! shes "two faced" in my eyes and i never really passed her of bring a sweet person innocent like everyone says about her. the truth will come out. but for now im not going to judge im not going to say hes wrong hes this and that just because he havent said anything IT 2 FUCKING sides to a story. and there are cracks in rihanna's story that maybe chris browns response in court may fill in and it may all come out and make sense not being just is fault! maybe both! maybe hers! maybe him! but march 5 will tell but im still going to love chris brown for the person that he is and the person that he been since day one! not a singer not a man with money but a respectful kind hearted all around guuy that you can see yourself hanging with and being close to! hes just sweet and beautifull inside and outside even with his familys problems from him being little he still remain sane and beautifull within! AND IF HE DO GO TO JAIL FOR THIS SHE SHOULD TOOOOO CAUSE THEY DID DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ON EACHOTHER! LOVE CHRIS BROW P.S. STILL HERE TILL THE END AND CHRIS BROWN AUNT CLEARED UP THE HERPES RUMOR ITS NOT TRUE

Anonymous said...

hi ma name is aaliyah-Ms.Brown i do agree you never put your hands on a women. but you should never put your hands on a man either (rihanna). but what my man did was wrong and i hope yall forgive him please do. i don't want 2 see his carrer fall..and look how many fans he has. how many young girls he touched like me..just forgive him please. i miss you so much..and i hope you get out of this situation (baby) i love you. :-( :-( :-(...now rihanna i know you still have feelings 4 chris butt i think it is best that you and him go different ways everybodi thing thats butt i know you still love him. and he mite love you to but love your biggest bigest fan AALIYAH BURNS-MS.BROWN...LOVE YA BABI...MMMMUUAAHH!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

hi ma name is aaliyah-Ms.Brown i do agree you never put your hands on a women. but you should never put your hands on a man either (rihanna). but what my man did was wrong and i hope yall forgive him please do. i don't want 2 see his carrer fall..and look how many fans he has. how many young girls he touched like me..just forgive him please. i miss you so much..and i hope you get out of this situation (baby) i love you. :-( :-( :-(...now rihanna i know you still have feelings 4 chris butt i think it is best that you and him go different ways everybodi thing thats butt i know you still love him. and he mite love you to but love your biggest bigest fan AALIYAH BURNS-MS.BROWN...LOVE YA BABI...MMMMUUAAHH!!!!!!!! THT HERPES THING IS NOT TRUE THANK GOD...BUT ALL THIS STUFF THT HAPPENED IT DOES FIT MA HUSBAND AND IM SO SAD BECAUSE WHAT HE DID AND RIHANNA I LIKE YOU BUT WHAT HAPPENED IS MAKKING ME MAD I KNOW ITS NOT ALL YOUR FAULT BUTT SOME OF IT IS AND YOU SHOULD OF TOLD THE WHOLE TRUTH...BUTT I STILL LIKE YOU THAT WAS NICE WHAT CHRIS DID BUY YOU A NECKLES FOR YOUR BIRTHDAY. THT WAS NICE. I LIKE YOU AND LOVE YOU BUTT IF YALL GONNA BE TOGETHER YALL NEED TO STAY CLOSE NOTT LIE AND STAY TOGETHER..CHRIS YOU R MY FAVORITE MALE R&B RAPPER IN THE WORLD..AND I HOPE YOU DNT STOP YOUR CARREER LIKE YOU SAID I LOVE MY FANS..WE ALL LOVE YOU TO SO PLEASE LET HIM STILL HAVE HIS CARREER...I WOULD HATE TO NOT SEE ANOTHER NMUSIC VIDEO OR SONG WITH OUT YOUR NAME ON TOP OR SEE YOU IN IT...I CRY MYSELF TO SLEEP THINGING ABOUT YOU AND THIS STORY...I BEGGED MY DAD TO GET ME THESE CONCERT TICKETS TO GO SEE YOU AND BOW WOW...I BEGGED HIM FOR YOUR C.D BOTH OF THEM..THAT IS HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU. I WOULD HATE NOT TO SEE YOU GET A GRAMMY AGAIN OR AN AWARD OF ONE OF YOU SONGS IF YOU ARE NOT IN THE BUSINESS ANYMORE.I CARE FOR YOU I PLAY YOUR MISIC EVERY EVERY EVERY NIGHT WHEN I GET IN THE SHOWER AND WHEN I GO TO SLEEP. EVERY TIME YOU ARE ON T.V I TURN TO THE CHANNEL. I KNOW ALL THE WORDS TO YOUR SONGS AND THE DANCE MOVES...:-( :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( I WISH I CAN SEE YOU RIGHT NOW AND GIVE YOU A HUG AND CRY AND LET ALL THE PAIN OUT WITH YOU...I WOULD NEVER EVER EVER WANT TO SEE MY FAVORTIE ARTISTS IN THIS SITUATION AGAIN I LOVE YOU TO DEATH..YOU ARE ALWAYS ON MY MIND. I KNOW YOU HAD A BAD CHILDHOOD BUT YOU SHOULD NOT LET THAT EFECT YOU AND YOU RELATIONSHIP...I FEEL BAD BECAUSE HOW THIS SITUATION CAME THIS BIG. BUTT YOU HAVE TO TRY TO WALK AWAY..BUTT RIHANNA SHOULD OF NEVER HIT YOU FIRST THO...WELL I HOPE YOU DON'T GO TO JAIL I HOPE YOUR CAREER WILL STILL BE GOIIN. I WOULD LIKE TO SEE ANOTHER ALBUM COME OUT VERY SOON..I LOVE YOU AND I HOPE YOUR FAMILY AND YOU MOM AND DAD IS HAPPY (ACTUALLY ARE FAMILY CAUSE ONE DAY WE WILL GET MARRIED) LOL. BUTT I HOPE YOU ALL R HAPPY AND WHEN THIS IS OVER YOU CAN GO BACK TO WHAT YOU WAS DOING AND THAT YOU LOVE...(P.S YOURS TRUELY YOUR NUMBER ONE FANNN IN THE WHOLE WORLD AALIYAH BURNS-AKA MS.BROWN 4LIFE. LOVE YOU BABY :-)

Anonymous said...

hi ma name is aaliyah-Ms.Brown i do agree you never put your hands on a women. but you should never put your hands on a man either (rihanna). but what my man did was wrong and i hope yall forgive him please do. i don't want 2 see his carrer fall..and look how many fans he has. how many young girls he touched like me..just forgive him please. i miss you so much..and i hope you get out of this situation (baby) i love you. :-( :-( :-(...now rihanna i know you still have feelings 4 chris butt i think it is best that you and him go different ways everybodi thing thats butt i know you still love him. and he mite love you to but love your biggest bigest fan AALIYAH BURNS-MS.BROWN...LOVE YA BABI...MMMMUUAAHH!!!!!!!! THT HERPES THING IS NOT TRUE THANK GOD...BUT ALL THIS STUFF THT HAPPENED IT DOES NOT FIT MA HUSBAND AND IM SO SAD BECAUSE WHAT HE DID AND RIHANNA I LIKE YOU BUT WHAT HAPPENED IS MAKKING ME MAD I KNOW ITS NOT ALL YOUR FAULT BUTT SOME OF IT IS AND YOU SHOULD OF TOLD THE WHOLE TRUTH...BUTT I STILL LIKE YOU THAT WAS NICE WHAT CHRIS DID BUY YOU A NECKLES FOR YOUR BIRTHDAY. THT WAS NICE. I LIKE YOU AND LOVE YOU BUTT IF YALL GONNA BE TOGETHER YALL NEED TO STAY CLOSE NOTT LIE AND STAY TOGETHER..CHRIS YOU R MY FAVORITE MALE R&B RAPPER IN THE WORLD..AND I HOPE YOU DNT STOP YOUR CARREER LIKE YOU SAID I LOVE MY FANS..WE ALL LOVE YOU TO SO PLEASE LET HIM STILL HAVE HIS CARREER...I WOULD HATE TO NOT SEE ANOTHER NMUSIC VIDEO OR SONG WITH OUT YOUR NAME ON TOP OR SEE YOU IN IT...I CRY MYSELF TO SLEEP THINGING ABOUT YOU AND THIS STORY...I BEGGED MY DAD TO GET ME THESE CONCERT TICKETS TO GO SEE YOU AND BOW WOW...I BEGGED HIM FOR YOUR C.D BOTH OF THEM..THAT IS HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU. I WOULD HATE NOT TO SEE YOU GET A GRAMMY AGAIN OR AN AWARD OF ONE OF YOU SONGS IF YOU ARE NOT IN THE BUSINESS ANYMORE.I CARE FOR YOU I PLAY YOUR MISIC EVERY EVERY EVERY NIGHT WHEN I GET IN THE SHOWER AND WHEN I GO TO SLEEP. EVERY TIME YOU ARE ON T.V I TURN TO THE CHANNEL. I KNOW ALL THE WORDS TO YOUR SONGS AND THE DANCE MOVES...:-( :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( I WISH I CAN SEE YOU RIGHT NOW AND GIVE YOU A HUG AND CRY AND LET ALL THE PAIN OUT WITH YOU...I WOULD NEVER EVER EVER WANT TO SEE MY FAVORTIE ARTISTS IN THIS SITUATION AGAIN I LOVE YOU TO DEATH..YOU ARE ALWAYS ON MY MIND. I KNOW YOU HAD A BAD CHILDHOOD BUT YOU SHOULD NOT LET THAT EFECT YOU AND YOU RELATIONSHIP...I FEEL BAD BECAUSE HOW THIS SITUATION CAME THIS BIG. BUTT YOU HAVE TO TRY TO WALK AWAY..BUTT RIHANNA SHOULD OF NEVER HIT YOU FIRST THO...WELL I HOPE YOU DON'T GO TO JAIL I HOPE YOUR CAREER WILL STILL BE GOIIN. I WOULD LIKE TO SEE ANOTHER ALBUM COME OUT VERY SOON..I LOVE YOU AND I HOPE YOUR FAMILY AND YOU MOM AND DAD IS HAPPY (ACTUALLY ARE FAMILY CAUSE ONE DAY WE WILL GET MARRIED) LOL. BUTT I HOPE YOU ALL R HAPPY AND WHEN THIS IS OVER YOU CAN GO BACK TO WHAT YOU WAS DOING AND THAT YOU LOVE...(P.S YOURS TRUELY YOUR NUMBER ONE FANNN IN THE WHOLE WORLD AALIYAH BURNS-AKA MS.BROWN 4LIFE. LOVE YOU BABY :-)

Anonymous said...

Yeah, he messed up. But he's human. He makes mistakes. We ALL make mistakes. One outbreak doesn't judge who someone is. And obviously he felt bad about what he did, that's why he turned himself into the police. Yeah, it's wrong to hit a girl, but he still sings great songs, and I still look at him the same way. One little mistake shouldn't determine who someone is.

SUGAR MUFFIN said...

CHRIS BROWN. I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH. U KNOW YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON SO IT REALLY SHOULDN'T MATTER WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK. I'M A FEMALE MYSELF AND YOU DON'T SUPPOSE HIT FEMALES BUT MAYBE SHE DESERVED IT. YOU SHOULD HAVE BEAT HER. STAY STRONG. I HOPE NOTHING BUT THE BEST FOR.

Aisha Muhammad said...

My comment is that she needs an intervention
My niece Tiffany Jackson Gates was murdered by her boyfriend in November 08. She took him back too!
And now she is dead! Maybe you could passed this article on to ms Rihanna! What I have heard is that he had hit her before this incident
If she stays he will again! And it could be fatal!
Washington Post Article November 25, 2008
Woman lives in fear
by Robert E Pierre and Clarence Williams!
Maybe she needs other women whom have been really hurt to speak with her!
He needs to made an example!
I am ashamed of him! Especially since his own mother was a victim!

Anonymous said...

Dat ugly bitch can get a fuckin life damn

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