I saw a recent blog post about me on WhataboutOurDaughters.com, a blog that focuses on issues that relate to Black women. Someone forwarded me some things that the blogger (I think her name is Gina) said about me on the blog, and wanted to know my reaction. I’ve always liked Gina’s Blog due to the fact that she stands up for Black women. As a man with a daughter and 4 God daughters, I am sickened by the fact that we live in a society that shows such consistent disrespect for Black women. I consider sexism and racism to be diseases, and I myself have shown signs of infection. When I confront my own sexism, I am then challenged to see the parts of myself that need to be corrected.
Gina doesn’t seem to like me very much, but I wasn’t surprised. I am not sure if she likes anyone, as most of her blog entries tend to be a little bit negative. But then again, sexism and racism can cause people to be damaged and angry on the inside – I’d love to hear some of her personal stories or know what her relationships with men have been like, I’m sure it would be intriguing. Even I have had to confront the internal damage and anger racism has created within me. It’s an on-going journey. I asked a friend about Gina, another blogger who seems to know her pretty well, and she says that she was the only one standing outside a Dallas comedy club protesting DL Hughley’s pathetic statements about Black women, and I respect her for that. In fact, I wish I’d known, since I would have gone out there with her. I just hope that Gina realizes that you can fight for others without feeling the need to carry a chip on your shoulder. Love can be more powerful than anger when it comes to achieving equality – I say this while realizing that I myself get angry on a regular basis.
The bottom line is that I forgive Gina for what she's saying about me. I respect her right to say it. I also appreciate anyone who stands up for Black women, because we don't make it easy for them. While I would not be surprised if Gina has something harsh to say in response to my entry (everyone’s gotta save face I guess), it is my hope that she can always remember the difference between her friends and her enemies in the battle for fairness in America. But then again, I have inadvertently stepped on some toes myself.
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I've seen her blog. She attacks everybody for no reason. I wonder if she's gay, since she really seems to hate men.
She hates Black men. Simple and plain!
But I, as well, respect her for her hard work in ending Male violence against Women
Well said Dr. B; good to see you take the high road.
Whats wrong? Yall niggas got a problem with strong black women?
I think she is just an angry black woman. She should understand that anger is understood, but that if you are always cutting people's heads off, they are not going to listen to you. Even Essence is not paying attention to her anymore, because whacking away at every black man in sight is not productive.
Dr. B, that was a really eloquent way of saying that she is a serious bitch. I know you're the professor and you won't say it yourself, so I'll say it for you. That lady needs some serious therapy and she seems to be drunk with power because of her exposure in essence. I was going to go to her conference last year, but I didn't like where she was coming from. She seems to think that it's her way or the high way on every little issue. I am not supportive of her style of commentary.
Nothing wrong with what the sista said. We been putting up with trifling-ass bruthas for waaaay too long.
The only way to affect any positive change is by us Black men and women working together. sadly, there are women who are fed up, and though I understand, I don't think it's the way to go.
Divesting from the Black Community:Run Black Woman Run!The above link was inspired by a conversation on that page a week ago.
I seen this woman's blog. She is emotionally damaged and probably needs to see a therapist for her anger. Black women cannot make progress if we are constantly trying to fight our brothers. Now I understand her feeling that Russell Simmons is a problem, but Dr. Watkins didn't do anything to her. The classic sign of an abused person or animal is that they bite hands that offer them support or food. Her attack on Dr. Watkins fits that mold.
I don't hate the girl, but she seems like that, a girl. She needs to learn to be a woman and show some responsibility on her platform. I know you fightin for the sisters and all that, but you don't have to be a HAM (Hatin Ass Mufucker) while you trying to do it.
girlearl at it agin.
this woman seems out of control.
Dr. B,
I didn't think her comment toward you was that harsh. But if I was in your shoes...who knows what I'd feel.
Knowing you both only professionally I would have expected either of you to take the high road in a war of words. You are both cultural critics and as such sometimes find yourself on the un-fun side of the pen.
Keep on pushing!
p.s. Why all the anonymous comments?
This woman is disturbed. I've seen her blog.
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